I love to treat myself to a massage at least once a month as it guarantees a few happy and calm days will ensue for my body. When I reconnect with my body at this deeper level, I am always reminded that inner peace is available to you at any moment. It’s a refuge amidst life’s demands, distractions, uncertainties and tough times. Massage therapy is one of the keys which help me develop my inner calmness as my superpower.
The power of ceremony
Massage therapy is in itself a clear channel for the expression of love in this moment. It’s an opportunity to accept that you are perfect with your imperfections. Like many women, I know all to well the devastating experience of depression and self-judgment. Yet I assure you that you can approach yourself as perfect even with your perceived flaws. It’s the imperfections which make you beautiful. So go on, embrace the present moment.
Mom & baby massage
As a mom, I am aware that I play a critical role in establishing the social and emotional anchor points for my children. With my daughter Lilly, our connection starts from within our girl power, our womanhood. For my sons I am their first connection to the sacred feminine. My daughter has a similar relationship with her father, linking her to the masculine side of society.
Certainly, there are light and dark sides to any gender role. I cannot define myself in any one single term. I’m a mother. A lover. An entrepreneur. A girlfriend. A bitch at times too, oh yes. As a partner, or a mother, or any other role you fulfil… it is impossible to meet all emotional needs. I cannot be everything for my partner. And likewise, I cannot incorporate the role of an entire society to bring up my sons. If I would try to be their one and only everything in life, I would be setting them up for unrealistic expectations and deep disappointments in the future. Nobody can offer total emotional support.
I find it important as a mother to embrace both the yin and the yang expressions in life. My children need to learn to express themselves crystal clear – no wishy-washy subtleness in this family. All interactions they learn now will serve as a basis for future intimate relationships. My relationship with my children is an important stepping stone to the social dynamics of the relationships they will form later on in life.
I would almost apologize for the not-so-very flattering images of myself in my mom & baby massage. But my little darling babe looks so peaced out, how could I not share these with you. What did you expect to look like during a massage ?
— Carobelle, Belgium (September 2016)