When I look at my daughter, I worry a lot. I worry about her growing up as a girl and all the hardships and challenges she will face in life. All because she is a girl. I want lots of things for her, besides happiness, being successful and finding her path in life. I want her to have equal rights on the workfloor. I want her to be able to travel the world and discover the beauty of life without any bigotry or misogynistic guy hurting her. In short, I want to make sure that my daughter grows up tough enough to face the world and still feeling empowered.
I am always mindful when speaking to my daughter, or when I interact with any young girl. Often when I teach digital analytics workshops at universities, I add in a few jokes and comments to guide young women on into life. I tell them how important it is for them to live their life to the fullest, and don’t they dare sit around waiting on some guy. Because ladies, no guy is worth it. Really – sorry guys.
So much attention goes to how we look as women. Of course I make sure that I reassure my daughter she is the most beautiful creature on this earth, and so are all her other friends. I want her to feel good about herself. But I also put a lot of focus on what she’s doing, what she’s accomplishing and where she’s failing. The failures are only opportunities to learn and grow, and to go back to do better next time.
Anyway, the main focus is on teaching my daughter that it is more important what she is DOING than how she LOOKS. And she gets that message loud and clear. She loves dressing up with all things frilly and glitter. And at the same time she likes to run wild in the fields, climb trees and play at Darth Vader.
So every now and again I will provide her with the intuitive knowledge that massage therapy is a great way to relax and to feel good about yourself. We like to share these mother – daughter moments together. It allows us to come together again. To spend some time on girl talk. Having our nails done. Enjoying a wonderful massage, together.
Does this seem like a contradiction with what I have said above ? Not at all. Massage therapy gives you the feeling that everything is ok. The feeling of freedom to enjoy the choices we make. It gives us the intimate moment and ability to spontaneously share our ideas and dreams. When we have our bodies massaged, we feel pure bliss. It is in these moments that our minds are the most focused. I believe my daughter is definitely set on the right track in life. She is both beautiful and talented !
— Carobelle, Keerbergen, Belgium (March 2017)