Have you ever felt stuck? And I mean really stuck. When it feels like the world is caving in on you and there is no way out. When you ask yourself day after day what the point is in getting up and doing it all again, the same old routine, bringing no joy to your life. And you sit there wondering to yourself “is this all there is to life?”
Do you notice certain patterns in your life? You’re suffering from a problem that seems to be recycling over and over in your life. Even better when you notice the pattern crawls all the way back up your family tree and you see history repeating itself over and over ad infinitum. Waiting for some special offspring to break the code and end the dreaded cycle once and for all.
You want to make a change, but you don’t know how and really you don’t have the time or the energy because you’re busy doing all the things that suck and that continuously bring you down.
I used to be that person
But I’m not anymore. I took my power back. I grasped my life in both hands and turned it around into something worth living. I have come from rock bottom to living the life that inspires me daily to do better, to create more, to bring inspiration. Best of all, I have learned to tap into the abundant flowing energy of the universe and let myself be inspired daily by the beautiful souls that surround me.
That means you too
That’s right. You inspire me. Whoever you are and whatever you’re doing, you inspire me in one way or another. If you’re the person bothering me, being obnoxious towards me in a meeting or giving me the cold shoulder? Then I am probably seeing a reflection of myself which I might want to change. Or maybe not.
The clue is to first sit with the energy. Not really wanting to do anything with it. Then listen to the messages, watch the negative energy dissolve and then do something with the message that remains. Listen to the lessons learned. If the universe send you a message or a lesson, then that is what was required at that moment.
In response to the situations above: you will inspire me to smile more and brighter during meetings. And I’ll be even warmer, kinder and politer to you whenever I see you. You see, no matter how bad you wish to behave, I will not lower my standards. Good manners are valuable. You never know who is looking on.
Take the leap
Now to the more daring part. When you really notice that “this” just isn’t working for you. That “this” way of living just isn’t fulfilling, well you’re right. It probably isn’t and yes you do deserve better. And know what, you can do it. I did it. And I’m just this little woman, with children, all out on my lonesome. Kicking ass and drinking champagne. Oh yes my darlings, I do know how to live the life I adore.
First of all, you need to find the courage to make the changes you need to feel fully alive. This starts by identifying which areas are bogging you down with frustration. You say a big fat cheesy “NO” to the negative stuff. Enough of that. No more. No sir.
Then you skilfully direct your attention to what you do want for yourself in life. Just like when driving a car, you guide your life in the direction of the solutions, away from the problems. And you do this by focusing your attention on where you want to be. Not where you don’t want to be. Because if you focus on the negative, guess what, you’ll end up precisely where you didn’t want to be in the first place.
Next you spend some time dreaming about your desired destination. See yourself there. Savour the feeling. Own the dream as if it were already part of your reality. Now comes the fun part: how to get there.
The leap of faith isn’t taken by jumping from a cliff wildly flapping your arms. When you dream, notice the baby steps it takes to get you where you need to be. In time. Remember, happiness is not a destination. Your dream is the destination and happiness is what you find along the way.
You start by taking baby steps towards your dream. Visit the area you want to live in. Research your dream vacation online. Talk about your desires to the people who matter most to you. And listen carefully for the answers you receive from the universe. You will be guided along your way.
You can definitely become the best version of yourself. And it all starts by wanting nothing but the best for yourself. There are many online courses and guided meditations which can help you on your way.
What gets to me most though is that people tend to think that all they need to do is believe and wish and it will happen. Yes, believing and wishing and dreaming is definitely part of the process. This process does however require you to actively participate in your life. To act as if you really want it. To go out there and do whatever it takes to get there.
You are so very loved. And when you tap into that energy of love, you too will be surrounded by all the things you desire. Try it. Believe me, it works.
Listen to your spirit. Learn to respond to your gut feeling. Cultivate courage. Take responsibility for your life and your actions. Discover the motivation and insight you need to move confidently in the direction of your dreams. You can do it! I did 🙂